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I’ve learned a lot in my lifetime….still need to learn more, but one thing that comes back to me time and time again is our mortality. What I’ve understood most in that area of thought is that only acceptance of our mortality makes us free to live and appreciate the wonder of life. After all, it is death that reminds us that we don’t have forever. So the point in this conversation is that if you and I are going to make our “statement” toward some worthy purpose or express our love for another person, or accomplish anything, we must do it now.

So many times I’ve sadly learned that there’s no holding back, because when I’ve done that – I lose. We must let go. Saying “hello” to something or someone will most often lead to a “goodbye” but the journey with the project or the person is what we call “life”. And in that “life” the light of you and I is brought forward in wonderful ways.

Never sit back thinking that you haven’t got what it takes. Grab today with all you’ve got! Say hello! Let God handle the goodbyes.

Happy is as Happy “IS”

Strange, that we can be suspicious of happiness. For instance, we can have so much fun doing something, or loving someone that we worry it won’t last, or something terrible might happen.

Here’s a story I heard a long time ago that fits this conversation:  a man was so frightened about having joy that he drove himself mad. He did everything the opposite of what he planned because he thought it would trick unhappiness. He found the woman of his dreams, but became so obsessed about losing her, he behaved senselessly – and ended up losing her. 

This brings me to say that on the flip side there is nothing wrong with having things go right and celebrating it. I honestly believe if we celebrated everything that goes right in our life, we would have no time to worry — even if something was wrong.

Remember our childhood. It was a time when the worst thing that happened was a scraped knee, but then Mom cleaned it up, put a band aid on it, kissed our cheek and we were off to the next scraped knee – happy as a lark.

Chances were good that we would soon be back in Mom’s arms crying, but we never played with our friends in a mind set of worrying that we might scrape our knees. 

In a world that seems to have lost its soul, it is hard to find something to really be happy about. Seems that the moment we go out our door the challenge of worry comes.  Be careful. Watch your back. Don’t anger another driver. Hang onto your purse and wallet. Know where to hid if a terrorist starts shooting up the store.

The Apostle Paul wrote that he was content in any circumstance. That’s really pushing the truth for most of us, but he was right, for even in the worst situations we still have the promise that Jesus will never leave us or forsake us.

I believe happiness begets happiness. The more you embrace it, the more it flows.

Take time to be happy about something, and let it flow.

2020 – A New Year with New Hope, Maybe a New World

I’m sure you would agree that there is nothing greater in the “joy bell arena” than to find new ways of overcoming our weaknesses. You and I know all about the thrill of victory and the  agony of defeat. As life goes on, we encounter obstacle after obstacle. Yet our hope, our dignity, and our laughable madness is what makes us believe in ourselves and keep us moving in the right direction.

The greatest failure is to fail to try, and I am not just preaching to the choir, but to myself. For I have 2 books floating around in my mind — in that creative part of me that is always working — and I know if I give up I may dry up and blow away.

You too, have perhaps given up just when, with a bit of persistence and belief in yourself, you would have made it! 

So often when all seems lost and useless to keep trying, the breakthrough comes.

I honestly do not indulge in New Year resolutions.  It’s like starting a new diet that never works. What I like to do instead is to make a covenant with God and ask for His help. It doesn’t always work, because I still have a lot of responsibility to perform. But at least I have the recognition that something needs to be done somewhere in my life.

The world is dangerously slipping into confusion and chaos. Signs are everywhere that if we don’t pull things together we will be lost. 2020 means perfect vision. To have this perfection it often takes glasses to see better. I like to think of “spiritual” glasses, worn to help us discover what we personally need to discover about ourselves that will carve out a new mind set and start the joy bells ringing.  The new decade of 2020 may likely bring multiple changes for all of us. Let’s not be afraid to face them. Get your glasses on and see your greatest potential…..right where you are, right where you live. Make it a great start to a new “you”.

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The Shining Star On The Highest Bough

I wish a Merry Christmas to all my Followers and Internet Surfers, and leave this thought:  We never lose or forget the people we love, especially at this time of the year. They continue to live in our hearts and in our memories forever.

Often I catch myself saying: Mom and Dad, I wish you were here.

Especially at Christmas I hear my heart say: Mom, I wish you were here making the pumpkin pies. Or, Dad, I wish you were roasting the turkey and making the dressing, like you always did.

And of course, I will never forget my wonderful brother. All of them are gone now, but their memory lives on and I am especially conscious of their  love for me at Christmas time.

It is not surprising that I find the lyrics of “Have Yourself a Merry Little Christmas” very dear when I think of my losses, and the losses others have suffered. The song covers it well as the words capture what takes place during this season to fill the holes and comfort the voids.  “Faithful friends who are dear to us gather near to us once more”.

The lyrics go on ……. “Through the years we all will be together if the Fates allow. Hang a shining star upon the highest bough, and have yourself a merry little Christmas now”.

Yet most of all, it is the truth that God loved His human creation deeply enough to make a way for us to have forgiveness and eternal life in Jesus Christ His Son. That is the shining star upon the highest bough! That is what Christmas is all about.

Merry Christmas!

Love is Worth the Effort

To love is the greatest of human experiences and sooner or later we all realize that without it life is empty and meaningless. Love generally never disappoints, even if it seems refused and not worth our effort. Even if it brings uncertainties and confusion. Yes, even if we never get a response, because God sees our effort if no one else does.

Humans are such strange creatures at times. We want to be loved, but sometimes we get into a mood that reeks of emotional detachment. I’ve been there, where I don’t want anyone to feel sorry for me or to show love toward me. It’s that: “leave me alone” mood. In this mood we consciously mute our emotions to protect ourselves.

In my book: “Take Charge of Your Destiny” I encourage the thought that it’s never too late for anything.  Never too late to grab a dream and run with it. Never too late to hope for something that seems impossible.

Most of all, it’s never too late to love.

Never too early to love.

Even when things get so messed up that we don’t know where to begin or where to end, it is love that eventually conquers it all.

I hope your bathroom never looks like this!

Let me share with you what I wrote in my book  “Take Charge of Your Destiny”: “Beautifully painted in all creation and nature we see God’s love. It is evident in the first cry of a newborn baby. It is there at the dinner table where our children and grandchildren gather like beautiful olive plants around our table. It is there when healing comes from the hands of a surgeon. It is there when restitution is made after years of shunning.”  It is there…….”  !!!!

Poet Annie Hall says it well in her poem “Through Thick and Thin”:

I don’t have to be with you to know you’re there.
We don’t have to see each other to know that we care.
We could be apart for years upon end
and still remain the best of friends.

Love is the most wonderful experience of all emotions.


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Can You Hear The Opera in The Streets?

When you and I were babies there was undoubtedly someone declaring that we had our mother’s eyes, or our father’s determination, or Aunt Maggie’s dimples. Even so, there we lay with a face like none other, a voice that brought a brand new sound into the world, and a mind that would be our most unique contribution to the world.  The ogling and classified resemblances goes on, and without notice people create the first sign of “conformity” in our lives.

When we get right down to it, our individual value lies in the fact that we are, first of all, who we are…..even if others might struggle to make us something different.

I truly believe if people succumb to allowing others to put them into a mold, or we ourselves put people into our molds, we end up with no wonderful surprises. The laughter gets stifled. The joy of individual creativity is over-looked. There is no opera in the street. There is no wonder – no imagination.

We can’t deny that we live in a world that requires a measure of conformity in order to be popular or to simply survive. I’ll be honest – I concede to fashion, to buzz words, and to certain behaviors. And not without saying, there are customs to be respected, precedents to guide us, and rules we must follow.  But in all of this conformity there is plenty enough left for us to be the individual we were born to be, and to make our mark whatever it’s yet to be. And I encourage this for all of us, no matter what age!

A fascinating observance I’ve come across is that it takes less effort to know people in groups than it takes to know a person individually. Nothing wrong with that, but on the flip side, when we make an effort to get to know someone and we seek out their “special qualities”, the opera begins – the music starts. How many times have you casually known someone, and when suddenly it happens that you get to know them better, you are delighted? It’s happened to me many times. Suddenly the person comes out of the mold I have put them in and I’m astonished at how wonderful it is to know them. How beautiful they really are!

The opera is there. Music is in the street if we look for it and listen for it. In many ways we can be the “song” in someone’s life.  


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Isn’t it Interesting

In view of the division Americans are witnessing in our Government and how it is affecting our daily lives — meaning, the negative influences in our own spirits — I find it difficult to write about anything else.  But knowing that there is Someone Higher than problems or people creating problems, has inspired me to blog a narrative on “warm hugs” and happy faces.

Isn’t it interesting how we often reserve our embraces for intense emotional occasions of extreme happiness, tragedy or catastrophe?

Some people, and families, are natural huggie-bear, kissie-face people, but for most of us, we wait for the security of another’s arms after an earthquake, flood, accidents or death.

I know a few macho men who never hug or kiss a friend or relative because they think it’s trite to do this. However, they pat another’s back or slam a bear hug on someone over a “hail-Mary” win at a sports game.

In my opinion there’s no big deal to showing affection. I see it as human affirmation. It says I value you, and I cherish our friendship.

Some medical researchers have written articles confirming that a warm hug can be good for your health. I believe this, because I know how I feel when someone initiates a hug. I remember my mother, twenty years after my father passed away, standing in the middle of the greeting room at an Assisted Living facility with her arms held out to me, saying: “I need a hug…..I need to feel someone holding me.”

Hugs cost nothing, yet they are priceless to those who receive them.

Have fun today. Give a hug. Steel a kiss if you can!

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It’s Pure Magic

I believe there is something good, something beautiful, something positive in everyone. I recently heard of a man who saw an elderly lady with a saucy hat perched on her gorgeous gray hair. Her face was buried in a newspaper while she waited at the doctor’s office for her name to be called. The man decided to respond to his instinct and said to her, “You look lovely in that hat.” She put down the newspaper, smiled and said: “Women have lost the art and joy of wearing hats these days. I love them! Thank you for noticing.” And that was the start of a long animated conversation in which she became more radiant and even more lovely.

It cost the man nothing, and ended up  making a long wait for the doctor very pleasant.

This story makes me think of my sister-in-law, Barbara, who lives in Illinois. When we have the pleasure of shopping together at a mall, we never meet a stranger. She and I are “people persons”. We also respond to our instincts and never meet a stranger when we’re together. We’ve had so much fun meeting and talking to people we will never see again.

It really takes so little time and energy to do something like this. There’s pure magic in friendly words.

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Twenty-four Years makes Little Difference

Strange how history repeats itself.

It was August 1995 and 3 months before America would go to the polls to vote in the November 1996 Presidential election. I was concerned, as I am now, that the world was slowly creeping toward a climax;   i.e. its highest point of culmination with tensions playing out in every arena.



Past history showed that wars and evil could change a nation, or the world, in quick time.

Here’s what I wrote in 1995 on the editorial page of a monthly publication I was privileged to be both writer and editor for:

“World events are rapidly changing history and blowing the musty seal off the Apocalypse. The presence of end time prophesy in world events is as conspicuous as a clown act in an opera house. No longer is there a timid tap on the heart’s door. The sound of God’s passion for the world almost suggests bruised and bloodied knuckles. Can you sense it?  In this year’s Presidential election, certainly “character” and “experience” should matter at the polls. But looking at the deeper picture of what’s at stake from our own safety advantage – and what is also predicted in prophesy – our choice should go beyond the personality, and be rationed with wisdom.”  (9/11 was just 6 years away when I wrote this. Terrorists completely changed our country and the world in a matter of one morning.) 

History often repeats itself to a point that the past is repeatable in similar ways. I believe I can write the 1995 editorial today and still be on the same target. For, the years that have flown by are but a wink to God, and I am still deeply concerned for the nations of the world, especially ours.

If I am held to the TRUTH (which I am), I truly believe there exists obligation to be sensitive and appropriately involved in the political state of our country….which is presently in division and a mode of dis-respectfulness. It is TRUTH that matters. “It matters above everything else and clearly demonstrates that it cannot be successfully fought. To fight it guarantees a frustrating blunder. (Quote from my book: Take Charge of Your Destiny, page 25.)

Shakespeare penned it superbly:

This above all: to thine own self be true, And it must follow, as the night the day, Thou canst not then be false to any man.”

May God bless America and continue to make us the shining star on a hill.


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Grandma Is Such A Ham!

It’s amazing how grandparents and parents pass down the “family traits” and some of them are actually laughable. Take for instance this hilarious story: A young wife went about cooking her first ham dinner for her husband.  Before she put the ham in the oven, she cut off both ends. When her husband asked her why she did that, she replied that her mother always cut both ends of the ham off before putting it in the oven.  Twenty years later, her daughter fixed a ham dinner for her husband, and cut off both ends of the ham before shoving it into the oven. Her husband asked why she did that. Her response was:  “My mother and grandmother always cut off both ends of the ham.”  

One day the granddaughter was visiting her grandmother and while both of them were in the kitchen, the granddaughter asked:  “Grandma, why do you cut the ends off the hams you cook?”  Waiting for a very scientific gourmet-type answer, Grandma said: “Because my baking dish is too small.”

I never knew my maternal or fraternal grandmothers because they passed away before I was born, but I remember when I was a little tyke, my Mom put dirty dishes in the oven. The answer to that weird habit was: “Company is coming and I don’t have time to wash them.” 

Thank goodness for our dishwashers! 

Please add to this post the funny things your family does (or did). We all love a good laugh.


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